Emotional Resilience for Parents and Carers
We want you to know you are not alone, and we have designed this page with you in mind.This page is updated weekly to include relevant content to help you and your child/ren. Please visit the useful contacts area for numbers to call or forums to connect with.
The content on this page has been collated by a team of professionals working across partner organisations, such as HeadStart Kernow, Your Way and Young People Cornwall. These sites contain further resources.
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Ted Talk Podcast – Ted Talks go over many different types of discussions from guests all over the world. They can be very inspirational and informative. People from all ages can enjoy this type of podcast.
Ideas for family fun
Author J.K. Rowling has a competition for children aged 7-12 to illustrate the Ickabog. Each day chapters of the story are uploaded and there are suggestions for how to illustrate. Children can enter to win but it will make a fun family activity too.
With the Active Cornwall Virtual School Games coming up, there is a host of challenges and activities being released via their Facebook page.
Dealing with Uncertainty - When things don’t go according to plan
Life is unpredictable and sometimes, despite our best efforts, things just don’t work out the way we anticipated and planned them to. During these times it can be easy to let the situation dictate our mood and behaviour; we can revert to catastrophic thinking, self-blame, blaming others and circumstances, letting our fears take hold can impact on our sense of emotional wellbeing and leave us feeling powerless.
We have all experienced times when nothing seemed to go right, I know I have. A couple of months ago I had a week where I felt nothing was going to plan and everything seemed to be going wrong. By the end of the week, I felt frustrated and overwhelmed. It felt as if nothing was working out the way I wanted it to. Using STOPP I was able to take a step back, a deep breath in. Then using some of the strategies outlined below I was able to clear my thinking and take steps to change what I could. Doing this really helped me regain my sense of perspective and feel back in control.
Here are some things you can do to help work through a challenging situation:
Writing it down (the good and the bad)
Once everything is visible on paper, this enables your subconscious mind to free itself of the internal negative monologue. You are not only able to question the validity of the negatives but also apply more focus on the positives.
Put things into perspective
It may feel like the end of the world, but a good question to ask yourself is, will you still be worrying about this next week, next month, next year? If the answer is no (which it usually is), then be kind to yourself and help your brain to let it go
Is there a solution?
What solutions could you find to address the problem. Go through each option, one at a time. What would be the easiest thing to action? Is this realistic? What will help you resolve the issue?
Find the good in the situation
Now this one can be pretty difficult, especially right now, but it is possible! Consider the good that can come out of this situation. This could include - more time at home with your family, no long commute in to the office, savings on fuel costs.
This will pass
Reminding ourselves that the situation is not permanent and things will start moving again soon, in the direction we intended, helps. Remember situations resolve themselves one way or another. Keeping this in mind is helpful as it allows you to go back to focusing on the bigger picture and not sweat the small stuff.
Close your eyes and breathe deeply in and out. Be kind to yourself and treat yourself with love and compassion
Remember when things don't go as planned.
Always maintain your cool, take a deep breath and tell yourself everything will be okay. Accept disappointment, accept you can never control everything and learn to adapt to the situation.
Change is simply a transition.
And knowing and accepting that change is inevitable may help to at least make the unpredictable more predictable. When we think of change more in terms of a shift, it becomes easier to bear.
Coping with uncertainty
This video offers advice about dealing with uncertainty.
More resources and ideas
- Although lockdown has been difficult for many of us, there was some certainty within the rules. As lockdown eases, things might start feeling less clear, and there may be new challenges.
- Great resources from the NSPCC providing advice and support for parents and carers.
- Whether you're working from home with your kids for the first time or supporting children with anxiety due to coronavirus, they've got tips and advice for you.
- An App designed to help you prevent and manage stress, anxiety and related conditions. The game based app can be used to relax before a stressful situation or on a more regular basis to help you live a happier, more stress-free life.
- This pdf provides some simple advice and guidance to parents and carers to help families work together and support one another during the coronavirus outbreak.
Anxiety: the master of disguise
Unable to create a predictable and consistent environment can lead us to feel more anxious and worried and so we can find ourselves stuck in a cycle repeating the same behaviours.
Advice and Guidance
Anna Freud National Centre for Children and Families
Coronavirus explained to children
Save the Children
Families Under Pressure
- Families Under Pressure is a series of twelve short films offering parenting tips featuring the recognisable voices of a host of well-known parents. The tips are based on decades of research from the UK’s leading experts and rooted in the experience of NHS teams working with families and feedback from parents, and are available free on a dedicated website, along with informative resources.
- Support for parents/children
- 6 ways parents can support their kids through the coronavirus disease (COVID-19) outbreak
Young Minds support for parents/helpline
HeadStart Community wellbeing for young people
HeadStart is offering a online/telephone well-being service to young people aged 10-16 years who are struggling with their emotional health during the COVID 19 crisis.
Call the Parents Helpline
Call us for free Mon-Fri from 9.30am to 4pm – available in England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland.
0808 802 5544
Emotion Coaching Pilot
Cornwall Council's Educational Psychology team has created a pilot of Emotion Coaching (EC) sessions. These draw on neuropsychology, attachment theory and focus on developing and maintaining relationships with children and young people to support their social, emotional and mental health as well as their learning.
You can also read the EC GDPR statement.
Counselling for Social Change
This usually low-cost counselling service is offering free 30 minute drop-in online or phone sessions with trained counsellors.
Calls may be recorded for monitoring or training purposes.
Man Down Cornwall
British Psychology Society resouces
Psychologists from the British Psychological Society have produced guidance for key workers and their children on navigating the emotional effects of the Covid-19 pandemic.
Young Minds Parents' Lounge
What is the Parents' Lounge? - Helpline experts give their advice and tips on a range of topics chosen by parents, from how to have difficult conversations with your child, to managing anxiety in children.
New Cornish mental health support line launches
A new mental health support phone line for our residents has been launched by Cornwall Partnership Foundation Trust, which gives anyone access to mental health advice from a professional 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The contact number is 0800 038 5300.
WellRead is a chat bot activity designed to help parents boost their children's emotional wellbeing with a combination of storytelling and targeted conversations. The WellRead website contains a curated collection of short stories for parents to read to their child. Each story is accompanied with a series of questions that a parent can ask to spark conversations with their child about a range of wellbeing topics. The stories and questions you will find in WellRead have been selected by teams of experts, which means parents can relax and enjoy some quality time with their child, reassured that they're also caring for their emotional well-being. It’s free to join, simply create an account on the Wellread website
Stonewall’s domestic violence page contains resources and information for people in the LGBTQ+ community, including housing support.
ManKind's Help for male victims provides training, advice and support to professionals and victims.
Respect’s Men’s Advice Line takes calls from men, and their families and friends and practitioners.